Today, man are often depicted and
seen as someone who is though and courageous; moreover, fearless. However, that
view is only seen and judged based on the outer experience. People seldom and
almost never consider about the fear of a man. Does man actually have a fear?
What is actually the greatest fear of a man? Through discussion, some can infer
that the greatest fear of man is to be caught as a pretender. A pretender can
be defined as someone who makes unjustified or false claims or statements about
their personal status, abilities, intention, or like. In this case of a man, a
pretender could be simplified to someone who looks bold or tough on the
outside, but a coward in the inside. Therefore, a man would do anything to
cover his fear by responding in a wrong way to challenges and problems.
In the world today, people tend
respond in a wrong way when they are faced with problems to cover their fear or
weakness. Some people choose to respond either in an active way or in a passive
way. The people who choose to respond in an active way are those who become
confidently aggressive to cover their actual fear when prompted with problems.
Those people are usually pretending that they are strong or skillful and becoming
dominant compared to others such that they are the ruler and that they are the
decision maker. On the other hand, the people who prefer to respond in a
passive way are those who tend to run away or hide when prompted with
challenges or problems. Those people often pretended that they are not capable
for the challenge and prefer to not take the risk letting others take the risk;
moreover, they prefer to become the helpers such that they were unable to make
decisions fearing that they will make the wrong decision.
Those people who respond actively
to problems, should be able to practice more self-control such that they become
lesser aggressive and they should not face problems and challenges by
pretending. They should rather bravely admit their limit and try to overcome
their weakness in the right way; moreover, they should also be considerate to
other people. Therefore, the should focus on building more of their desire to
protect other people or in other words, care for other people which is one of
the desire and calling of a man. In contrast, people who respond passively to
problems should be able to build more confidence in them; furthermore, they
should also be a risk taker when prompted with problems and challenges so that
they will be able to explore more and gain experiences They should learn to
make decisions and being brave to take the risk.
As a self-application, I
personally was someone who tends to respond to problems and challenges in a
passive way. I'm very seldom confident about myself; consequently, I seldom
accept challenges in areas which I'm not experienced with since I dare not take
the risk. I also have a real difficulty in making decisions such that I will
always ask someone else to decide for me. As a consequence, with this mindset I
could never become a leader since a leader should be able to make decisions at
all time; moreover, he should be confident in his decisions and dare to take
the risk for the decisions that he made. This mindset is built since I'm young
because I have the habit to let my mom decide everything for me that I'm not
confident taking challenges alone. To be able to overcome this problem, I
should practice more of my adventurous desire so that I can become a risk taker
which is able to build my confidence to make choices and to take risks itself
independently.
As a conclusion, people often
respond to challenges and problems in the wrong way. Some people respond
actively by being aggressive and dominating; therefore, with this mindset, they
become inconsiderate of other people. They should learn to control themselves
and consider about other people by practicing more their manly desire of
protecting other people. In contrast, some other people respond to challenges
and problems in a passive way. This is mostly caused by the lack of confidence;
therefore, they dare not take the risk of the challenges. Those people should
learn to be confident in them by practicing their manly desire to adventure. We
can conclude therefore, that the right way to respond to challenges and problems
is by being confident and considerate; we should not pretend when bring
prompted with challenges and problems that decisions are made based on wisdom.